Where have all the gentlemen gone? *sad sigh*
I'm paraphrasing something Steve Harvey wrote in his book Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man (or is that the other way around?). He wrote something like, the reason why there aren't gentlemen anymore is because women don't require men to open doors for them or give up seats when in a crowded bus or room. Did equality for women make men lax in their gentlemanly ways? Or is it because fathers don't teach their sons the value of valuing women anymore?
I don't have answers to these questions.
This post is a lament. One I've been experiencing for quite some time now.
Today, a paper bag I was carrying broke and spilled its contents all over the floor at the mall. No one stopped to help me pick anything up. I had to squat on the floor and gather everything I had spilled while able-bodied men passed me by without giving me a second thought. Even the security guard was content to watch me pick up my stuff.
In many occasions, I would reach a door and before I could open it, a guy would sneak past me, open the door, enter the room, and let go of the door as if I wasn't there attempting to enter.
Many times men would cut in front of a line, not even caring that there are several people waiting patiently for their turn.
Or in a crowded bus, where all you want is a seat, and all the men pretend like they can't see you. Like you deserve to be standing because you were late in getting a seat.
What happened to the days when men would open doors for women?
What happened to the days when men would give up their seat to a woman standing?
Can men still be called men if they treat women so callously?
I'm not so sure who's at fault anymore. Why do men have to be told to be gentlemen? And who should teach them to be gentlemen? Where has their sense of civility gone?
Like I said above, I don't have any answers to these questions that leave me sad when I should be happy with my life. I just can't ignore what is happening on a daily basis to so many women out there. I guess this is why romance novels are so popular. These books are one of the only places where you can see a gentleman in action--depending on the kind of male protagonist the writer has to offer, of course. But even a bad boy knows how to take care of his woman.
This is why, I leave you with this question: Where have all the gentlemen gone?