To Ask or Not?

It's Pride Month!

This post is inspired by a poll I posted on my twitter feed centered around asking someone about their sexuality. I asked whether it was appropriate, totally not appropriate, or depends on how you ask. So far, the third choice is winning out, but the votes are still not enough to definitively say where people stand.

I'm not one to ask probing questions, especially when I just met someone. I'm socially awkward to begin with so asking questions terrify me, let alone making a mistake when asking them about anything. I think it has something to do with the feeling of being seen as judgy when asking questions. That's why I'm curious where people stand on asking about someone's sexuality.

I heard somewhere that it's not done. You just don't ask. But what if you like the person and it's not obvious where their leanings are?

In today's world, sexuality is so fluid that dating becomes more complicated than it used to be. I don't date, so this isn't coming from experience, but I do have friends who do. Some of them get stuck in limbo especially when they aren't sure if the guy or girl they like will reciprocate those feelings or if they aren't in the realm of possibility.

Sometimes someone's sexuality is obvious. No questions needed. But, most of the time, you just don't know. So how do you cope? How do you ask without insulting the person? Or do you wait for it to come up?

I don't think I'm alone in this situation. What would you do?

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